One of your tweets a few months ago was that “if you want a man that respects the way you think then show more mind than ass,” and a lot of people kind of went off about that. I find that, especially in this day and age, it’s just really hard to get certain messages across. Do you think that’s part of what’s prohibiting positive and loving relationships amongst Black men and women?
That situation that you are talking about was one of the most confusing things that has ever happened to me in my life. The thing is, when a woman tells me about how a woman looks at a black man, I listen whether I agree or not. I’m telling you how a man thinks, and you’re going to tell me something? That’s like me commenting on pregnancy. I’m never going to comment, for the most part, on what a woman should do with her private parts or pregnancy, because I don’t know anything about that! So, when I made that comment, I made that comment to heal and to help. If you don’t agree with it then keep it moving.
The thing is, if we don’t have real conversations with each other we’re never going to heal. What’s funny about it is, I actually learned about that from a scientific standpoint. If a man sees flesh and ass, he can’t see anyway because his dick’s hard. And when his dick gets hard, the blood rushes from his feet and from his head. So we can’t walk and we can’t see. Even from a scientific standpoint, when we see ass and titties we can’t see!
We want stuff to make us feel good. And what happened that was good—guess who came to my rescue? Black women. When I went and read those threads, one Black woman shut the whole Internet down. She said, “oh what, now we’re defending guyism?” And couldn’t nobody say shit, and I was like ‘go girl!’ And, it hurt my feelings a little bit because I was like damn, I said it is amazing when I called you bitches and hoes, and I called you niggers and bitches, my career went perfect, but when I told you that you’re gods and goddesses, I got more criticism than I’ve ever got in my life.
It’s definitely good to hear a man speak on that because a lot of times that message gets lost and misconstrued. I can’t personally speak on what a man is thinking, so it’s good to either confirm or understand where that mentality is at.
And that’s one thing that I would like to say to women as it pertains to that comment that there was such a big uproar about. I see this on Twitter all the time, I’ll say something and three seconds after I say it people are commenting on it. You haven’t even taken a minute to digest the thought. Have you ever noticed that when stuff happens to Black people in the community, it usually takes me about a week, for the most part, to speak on it. And people get mad at me, why hasn’t David Banner spoken on this? Well, I haven’t gotten all the facts first. I haven’t meditated on it. Even if I don’t agree with it, I haven’t even tried to assess why this person thinks that way. Even if it’s wrong, sometimes we have to figure out, ok, well there has to be something that, unless they’re trying to socialize you or lie to you, there’s a reason why this person thinks this way. Let me assess that.
What I learned as a man, and I think this is one of the things that helped me with my relationship with women in general, it that a lot of times as men we want to just be right. What I found out is when we love a person, and they are hurting, even if they are wrong, we being right doesn’t matter. My dad and my mom—before my dad died—they started getting along really well. My mom had like a two-year patch in their marriage where it was really bad, then all of a sudden they started getting along. I went to my dad and I was like “what’s going on, are y’all alright?! What’s wrong, there’s peace in this house!” and my dad said, “Look, if the decisions that your mom makes, if it doesn’t hurt our underlying finance or it doesn’t put the family in danger, she’s right.” He said at the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter. If it doesn’t affect the family, it’s emotion; it doesn’t matter.