This emotional convenience is something that a lot of women have access to and take advantage of. This convenience is also the basis of most friendships that women think they have with the opposite sex. But it is nothing more than a continuation of a failed attempt by a dude to get up with a female.
She basically takes a man that she likes or thinks is cool, but is unwilling to get up with at the moment and labels it as a friendship. This is convenient for her but it creates a dependency tendency for you. You become accustomed to doing stuff reserved for a boyfriend without receiving the boyfriend rewards. No dude is cool with this. He may tolerate it and rationalize it with the fact that he has other women. This may cause him to remain patient and optimistic that he will win in the end. But regardless of all that, no man wants to hear “oh, we are just friends,” from a female that he really likes.
The slight difference between a man and a woman in this situation; is that women are less likely to be dismissive after having sex with a dude. Usually, when a woman gives up her body, she also opens up a gateway to her emotions. Unfortunately, there are women who give up their bodies to men who don’t have the same interpretation of a relationship. So by default, they form a relationship with someone they can only call their friend. Real women hold themselves accountable for this mistake, while other women who don’t acknowledge it are more prone to walk around and call all men “dogs.”
This is not to say all women become sprung after good sex or that men don’t care after they have sex. Because there are women who sleep with dudes all the time with no emotional connection, and men who go crazy over every girl they meet. What this says is that sex doesn’t define a relationship, the same way that not having sex doesn’t define a friendship. And the people who don’t recognize this become more vulnerable to disappointment and deceit.
I made this point to my girlfriend of five years after she acknowledge that she has multiple male friends that she is just cool with. My argument was that I was her man and if she relies on me only for certain things and her male friend for other things; then there is the possibility that she was cheating. The fact that the thing you select to fulfill outside your relationship wasn’t sex; doesn’t disqualify it from cheating. Because if I’m the dude that your woman runs to when she needs something that you can’t provide; then I have the opportunity to steal your girl. That’s why I don’t agree with my girlfriend or wife having friends of the opposite sex. To some, it sounds insecure and may show a trace of jealousy. But for me, it just acknowledges and reinforces my belief that men and women can’t be friends