On the other hand, if you used to refer to a woman in a similar manner, you would likely get smacked or beat up by her brother. I’m not saying it is now cool to refer to a woman by any insulting name. What I’m saying, it seems some of today’s women just don’t care what you think. She doesn’t care if you think she is a hoe for sleeping with someone and never calling them back. She doesn’t care if you believe it is slutty behavior to have more than one sex partner. She is not ashamed to have sex, just because she wants to feel good. Nothing more, nothing less. No strings attached.
It is similar to the attitude of the character played by Robin Givens in the movie Boomerang. Her nonchalant attitude toward her sexual encounter with Eddie Murphy’s character left him surprised and shell-shocked. He got a whiff of his treatment towards various women throughout the movie.
That character in the movie led me to the rationale used by these types of women who justify this behavior. Sometimes you will hear women say ‘well men have been doing this type of stuff for years or why when men do it, it’s okay, but when women do it; we are hoes?’ Why is it a double standard? Why can men get away with things can’t and vice versa? The rules lie within the society that created them. Furthermore, these double standards just don’t exist within relationships and the interaction between men and women. As much as we are alike, we are different. Certain things are specifically designed for our gender. Some societies have taken those gender roles and unfairly defined positions for men and women. So even though there are women who do the same job as men, they get paid a lesser wage. Even though there are some women who partake in the same activities as men, and do it just as well, if not better; they are discriminated against and sometimes prohibited from doing those activities. Without a doubt, over the years women have proven that they are equal to men; but it still doesn’t mean we are the same.
With all that said, I must admit that I have a problem with women using men as an excuse for their behavior. Do you want to have sex with no strings attached? Fine. Do you want to commit adultery? Fine. Feel free to sleep with whoever, whenever you choose to. Just be big enough to say you did it because you wanted to. Not because a man did it to you, or because you feel it is unfair that you can’t do it. If accountability is equal in terms of consequences; then it should be equal in terms of purpose. Anything else is an impulsive response that is neither introspective nor mature. However,. looking at it from that end of the spectrum, makes me look at the other side of the spectrum.