Dark skin women who are beautiful, educated and have the same assets as every other woman out there, get upset when they see successful brothers always choosing a light skin girl over them. Just the same, Black women in general get upset when a successful brother chooses a White woman or any other race over them. It furthers compounds the problem when these brothers go in public and make it be known that they not feeling dark skin women. It is like adding insult to injury. Lord Jamar of the rap group Brand Nubians breaks down the dichotomy of the subject in this video.
It can’t be denied that there is a emphasis on skin color in Hollywood with characters and images they present on television, movies and general media. Traditionally there always has been a lack of darker people represented on screen. Oscar winner Viola Davis said “I never [saw] any examples on television or film of anyone associated with beauty…that looked like me.”
Some Black women feel inadequate from these one way images of beauty. It also factors in self doubt and insecurity from our Black women. According to an article by John C. Richards Jr. in Urbanfaith.com; he points out that in OWN network Dark Girls documentary 70% of Black girls from the ages of 8-17 f feel like they don’t measure up in appearance. These factors not only contribute to Black men thinking the lighter the better. Which makes me ask why are we bashing Kodak Black. Are we not acting that the dudes in the hood who gets the money usually chooses the light skin girl. Are we acting like that the girlfriends and wives on some of our favorite shows and movies weren’t light skin. I’m not trying to justify his statements, I’m trying to rationalize them. In addition to that, I saw no intellects or people who have some understanding of this dynamic try to correct him. Instead I saw people calling him ugly, a roach, a critter, burnt and other names. Imagine the type of stuff he heard growing up. These images and the negative stigma from our own people will contribute to someone not wanting to be associated with their own skin color. It would cause someone not to acknowledge their own dark skin as beautiful. It would make someone like Kodak Black to say a line like this in his raps “Where them yellow bones? / I don’t want no Black b***h / I’m already Black / Don’t need no Black b***h.”
Related to the self doubt from individuals who feel rejected from society are the nuances of being dark skin. I recently wrote about the stigma of being a dark skin man on a Facebook post. It was related to the racism that 
‘Precious’ star Gabourey Sidibe experience at a Chanel store in Chicago. She wrote how she asked to leave even though she had the money to buy what she wants.
A similar story has popped up from Leslie Jones, who wrote that the Ritz Carlton in Los Angeles doesn’t “like Black people.” I wrote about the extra scrutiny surrounding darker skin people when they are around White folks. To me it was no coincidence that both of these sisters were darker skin and don’t fit the typical image of beauty. No I’m not calling them ugly, but do you think the same thing would have happened to Ciara or Zoe Saldana? There is this perception of darker Blacks of being wild, tribal, and volatile. While some light skin people are considered soft and not Black enough. I know people on both sides of the fence that hate stereotypes based on their skin. We should think about these things when chastise our own people over common myths. Even celebrities shouldn’t be separated from the ignorance and stupidity in our community. Don’t hate the player. Hate the game.