Interview with Malik Yoba and My Thoughts on His Attraction to Transgender “Women”

The interesting thing about that last scenario is recently Malik came out and said that he is attracted to Transgender women. He made the statement in response to a video where a Philadelphia man named Maurice “Reese” Wiloughby killed himself after getting bullied for saying he slept with Trans women.

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ATTENTION BLACK AND ALL MEN!!! THIS IS NOT OK!!!!! This video is another heartbreaking example of the homophobia, transphobia hatred and hypocrisy WE as black folks, BLACK MEN in particular have to NAME , FACE and CALL OUT and do the work to heal!!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I WILL BE AT @transmarchondc 🏳️‍🌈hosting a workshop called LOVE + TRAUMA: The Trans Experience on Sept 27 2019 ( details TBD ) His name was Maurice “Reese” Willoughby, a 20 yr old baby who killed himself from an apparent drug overdose after his girlfriend left him due to abuse. Clearly as evidenced in this video this young man was confident in his choice to love who he loved but the uninformed young men around him haven’t been taught BY US that love is love and acceptance of Trans love is ok and bullying has nothing to do with masculinity or HETEROSEXUAL behavior. Ultimately his mental and emotional health was not intact enough and the fragility of his life as he saw it was too much to bear. Often times this type of shame and ridicule can lead to the murders of women of the trans experience . NOT OK!! Clearly he didn’t get the support of his peers who think that toxicity = masculinity and humanity. That being a “real man” means we must disrespect and demean those that FIND themselves attracted to women of the trans experience. The fact that he was trans attracted presumably meant that he had no safe space to go to find the support he needed to learn to navigate love of a woman of the trans experience in a world that constantly tells you you’re wrong. TRANS PEOPLE DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT AS DO THOSE OF US THAT LOVE THEM!! I love ALL women AND count MYSELF among those that find themselves trans attracted and I too have felt the self imposed shame that comes with that truth but it’s time to speak up. It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual and often the beauty that is in the courage and conviction to live ones truth! As a self identified cis heterosexual man I too am learning what it means to be trans attracted. Many of us famous and otherwise that have struggled with accepting our attraction so we do NOTHING. This MUST change 🙏🏾

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First and foremost I want to say I sympathize with the young man who killed himself and send my condolences to his family. Secondly, I respect Malik for coming out and being truthful about his attraction to Transgender “women.” Unfortunately, it doesn’t take away from the fact that he is attracted to men. A transgender “woman” is simply a man who is making a futile attempt to become a woman. Based on the laws of nature, this is an impossible task that some people are embarking on.

Even if a man takes hormone pills, grows breasts and tries to alter any chemical composition in his body; he is still a man. If a man removes his genitals and undergoes operations to implement the private parts of a woman; he is still a man. He is still not capable to have a menstrual cycle or reproduce. These are natural functions of a woman. I know these points might be rejected by the LGBTQ community and those people who are attracted to Trans “women”, but the facts remain.

I do agree with Malik that being a “real man” does not mean that you have to “demean” those who are attracted to Trans women. I’m not trying to judge anyone and I definitely don’t want to disrespect or bully anyone to the point that they are suicidal. However, there needs to be clarity in regards to the classification of women. Transgender women are not women who are going through a “trans experience.” They are men who are going through a personal experience. To create a narrative contrary to that is deceptive to those are ignorant of the facts. The bottom line is you can’t change a dog into a cat.

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