On the contrary, what if I told you that everything you do has a motive behind it? As women (and again, sometimes men), we have a way of being very manipulative and sneaky. As happy as we may be, we do simple things like respond to a tweet or like a picture on Instagram because deep down, we probably still haven’t gotten that person out of our mind. Hence the “out of sight, but not so out of mind” thing I was talking about.
Sometimes, I think we need that confirmation to know that we still “got it”. As men and women, we LOVE to have our ego’s fed. So, if we see someone we used to have moving on or bragging about their current mate, we selfishly contact them to know that we still have some type of hold over them. If it sounds bad, that’s because it is. In some cases, if your mate isn’t with you during times where you may need that comfort or that reassurance, you have a tendency to reach out to something familiar to gain it. I’ve done it and I’m sure that many other women out there have too not realizing how detrimental it can become to our mental state.
Sooner than you know, you’re engaging in what seems to be a harmless conversation and then later on down the line when you’re getting text messages all throughout the day and night, you find yourself coming up with lies to tell your boyfriend as to why your ex is popping back up.
It’s hard to fight that urge to reach out when you’re lonely or when you feel like that sort of confirmation is needed in your life. Honestly though, I think once you start to recall exactly why you left that situation in the past and why you’re current situation keeps you in such good spirits, you’ll transition into not acting on your past and work towards keeping them out of mind so that they’ll continue to stay out of sight. Divas, Can You Relate?
Article Appeared @http://sheisdiva.com/2013/06/diva-talk-out-of-sight-but-not-so-out-of-mind/